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Limiting Beliefs → Expansive Affirmations Exercise

Beliefs are thoughts we think regularly. Limiting beliefs are any thought that does not feel good. An empowering belief, one that resonates with our true selves, is life-giving and always feels good. Our beliefs are literally creating the world we perceive around us. By changing our thoughts, we change our internal and external world.

The purpose of this exercise is to identify the limiting beliefs and to shift them into the empowering beliefs that truly resonate with you, and create affirmations out of them to rewire your system. 

1. Create a list of limiting beliefs. Take a few days to a week to do this, writing down any thought that you notice thinking that does not feel good. This is at least a limiting thought, and may be a limiting belief if it’s something you think regularly. 
2. When you feel your list is complete, take your list and next to each limiting belief, write the exact opposite belief, or an opposite that is even more resonant for you.
3. Go through your new list of opposite/empowering beliefs and tweak them to be the life-giving affirmations that really resonate with you. 
4. Organize your list of affirmations. Group them in a way that makes sense to you. Combine any that make sense, or remove ones that feel redundant. Create a list that feels incredible to read through. 
5. Record yourself saying your affirmations out loud, embodying each with feeling. Perhaps do so with music in the background that feels inspiring and uplifting. 
6. Listen to them daily, at the start of your day during your morning rituals, or whenever feels most aligned for you. If you are working with the rituals chart, add this habit there. Do this for at least 30 days and watch your world change.

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Jealousy brings us back home to ourselves. Over and over again. No matter how much we want it to be about the other, it is really about ourselves. That is not to say that we are not impacted by others and the world around us- of course we are, but at the end of the day, our sense of well-being, our contentment, our sense of joy and all-is-goodness is an inside job. And this is a good thing. But it can also feel like a lot when we realize we feel dependent on others to be our best selves.

Want the ultimate jealousy hack? Here’s my pro tip: become really adamant about becoming the master of your own universe. Find out what fuels your fire- not for others, but for yourself! What do you love doing and being, that lights you up, that you do with all your heart when nobody is watching. What feels so linked to who you are and how you express this life? Bring whatever these things are to the center of your life. Make sure you are not only connecting with them regularly, but that the pulse of your life orients around them. This is you coming back home to you.

Know that these things can and may shift for you and the what it is doesn’t matter as much as the how you feel while doing it.

For example, for me, I feel so lit up when I get into my body with physical movement with music in my ears. This could be any type of movement, and I love many, with the most important part being that I feel embodied, I feel present, and I feel the life-giving flow of energy begin awakening within me. From here, I get the most inspired ideas! I have such epic insights. And I also feel great about myself. The orientation of my world syncs back up with me at the center. So I make a point to do this every day. I move with music in my ears. And if ever I feel wonky, I know that I am a song and a move away from dropping back into me.

We all likely have lots of ways of being and things to do that help us drop into our center, finding flow with the universe. And the more we experiment with this space and practice being in it, the more insights we will receive into other things that help us feel this way.

The reason this is such a pro tip for jealousy is that jealousy can feel like the anti-self. It happens when we are focused on the other, totally out of our own business and into another’s. When nobody is at home within ourselves, we feel lost. That is why I suggest beginning with this. Because trying to cope with, understand or heal through jealousy without this connection with Self is futile and fleeting.

This video pairs with the “Dropping into me” exercise on the Being Love Membership site, to guide you in finding the freedom to flow, to feel safe and secure within.